After years of attempting resolutions or as I liked to call them Wresolutions (writer resolutions) I’ve resolved this year, not to make any. Instead, this year I want to just make changes because they need to be made, not because I feel some obligation to a new year that most of us lose come January 2nd.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Part of my non-resolutions is to try not to sweat the small stuff. This can be easier said than done and everyone’s definition of ‘the small stuff’ is different. For me what it essentially boils down to is letting go of things that aren’t in your control. You can try to plan for everything, but eventually there are some things that you aren’t going to be able to plan for, and in those cases, you have to learn from your mistakes and try to do better in the future.
Lose Your Obsession with Perfection
I’ve written rather extensively with my perfection obsession, particularly when it comes to writing. One of the lessons that I’ve learned from blogging daily is that you have to put something out there. There’s a deadline that, doesn’t necessarily exist with writing a novel (unless you’re under contract). I can’t, post my entire novel on my blog in an effort to give myself a deadline, but I can find a way to self impose a deadline that’s going to allow me to get the work I need done and finally get this work-in-progress into a completed stage.
Be Kind to Yourself
After all is said and done, the final thing I really need to do this year, is finally let the story rest. I’ve spent a very long time on this story, and the one thing I’ve learned in all that time is that I’ve always tried to make it my idea of perfect, and I’ve never quite known what the hell that’s supposed to look like. Because for me that idea is always changing. It’s fleeting, and at some point I’m going to have to take the risk of putting it out there and letting the chips fall where they may.